A few weeks ago, someone on facebook posted a photo of a child’s graded paper from school. The child’s teacher had written on the paper that she had told the child several times not to write in cursive. A friend of the child’s mom posted it. She included that the child wanted to learn cursive and that the child’s mother who was a veteran taught the child to write in cursive.
I watched as thousands of people shared the story. Many were in an uproar about it. Some were appalled by the teacher’s actions. Some wanted the teacher chastened for such an act. I saw comments about reporting the teacher to the board of education. Most were outraged that a teacher would make such a comment. I also saw many comments that declared “At least you could read it.” “The teacher should be glad the child could write in cursive.” I could go on. You get the idea.
I mulled it over for days. It really bothered me. I tried not to think about it, but I kept seeing it over and over again. Here are some points I made to a friend that posted the picture:
1. The child’s teacher asked her several times not to write in cursive. The child was being disobedient.
2. People are justifying the child’s disobedience with comments like, “it was only …”. “At least you could read it.” Justifying disobedience is a dangerous line to cross. Doing this gives children mixed messages. Sometimes you mean what you say and sometimes you don’t. Does a child get to pick and choose which instructions are up for negotiation?
3. The person who posted the picture included that the child’s mom was a veteran. What does that have to do with anything? My husband is a veteran. My grandfather was a veteran and wounded in action. Does that absolve a person from following instructions? No doubt the veteran comment was a way to manipulate others and elicit compassion and sympathy to join their side.
4. Why are adults bullies? This problem should have been resolved with the child’s teacher. A very short parent conference or phone call could have handled this. Handling it civilly obviously was not their intent. It was to gather support and attention.
5. These adults are teaching their child that they do not have to listen to adults. If something goes wrong in their life, their parents will be there to bail them out. Even the best of children will manipulate and lie to get their parent on their side. This family opened a wide gate to that happening.
I just checked the photo. It has been shared over 460,000. I’ll be honest. This kind of behavior grieves my heart.
If I have a problem with my child’s teacher, I discuss it with the teacher. Disagreeing or disrespecting an adult in front of a child causes some serious mixed signals. I may not always agree with my child’s teacher, but I think it’s important to maintain a united front.
It’s your job to get along with your teacher, not your teacher’s job to get along with you.
Make no mistake: defending your child when he has behaved inappropriately will not help him develop appropriate skills and to become right as a person.
Truthfully, I think I have pretty great kids. I don’t say that with a boastful heart. They’re not perfect. We have normal issues. I’m incredibly thankful for my children. They didn’t become who they are on their own. My husband and I require obedience. We also pray and rely on guidance and wisdom from God.
Some parents say, “I don’t know what to do! I’m at my wits end. I can’t control them.” Are you not the one that pays the cable bill? The phone bill? Do you pay for a cell phone? Are you the one that buys special snacks and treats? Do they live in your house? Then yes, you are the parent. Control is not the goal. We’re supposed to be raising children to be successful adults. Hopefully we’re not trying to raise children that can’t make it on their own and need their mom and dad to intervene in every conflict. But then again, maybe we are.
Tonight I read a parenting article from John Piper. He says that parents should require obedience from their children. Even if you do not consider yourself a believer, it is a great article.
Parenting is not for wimps. There is no easy button. Some days you think you’ll have a whiny child forever. Then suddenly, you make a breakthrough and things get better.
Once again, I’ll remind us all that we are raising our children to be successful adults. I don’t want my child to go off to college unable to function and cope with people and relationships. I don’t want them calling me to bail them out. I don’t want them getting dropped from their classes because they are disrespectful and challenge a professor’s authority.
I can say with confidence that respect, cooperation, responsiblity, and conflict resolution are lifelong skills that your child will need. Teach them to obey. Please don’t set them up for failure.
image: sxc by Chrissy Pauley
August 8, 2015
This week my husband requested monkey bread for his birthday breakfast. I couldn’t find my bundt cake pan so I improvised with a casserole dish. Everything was fine until I opened the oven and smoke poured out. Turns out the casserole dish wasn’t large enough. When the dough cooked, it pushed the brown sugar and butter mixture out of the dish and into the oven. It appeared to be quite a mess.
Thank goodness I had a non-stick oven liner in the bottom of my oven. I had purchased it a few years ago at the grocery store on a whim. It was on clearance for only a few dollars. I have sensitive skin and don’t like to use harsh chemicals in my house so I figured I would give the oven liner a try. As you can see in the picture above, the oven liner was covered in a hardened sticky mess.
I waited for the oven to cool and then I pulled the oven liner out. I expected that I would need to scrub the liner so I set it in the sink. I was so surprised when I turned on the water and the crusty food popped right off the liner. I washed the liner and then set it in my dish drainer to dry.
Ta-da! After just a few minutes of easy cleaning, my oven looks good again. I’ve had my oven liner for a few years and it has saved me time with cleaning and money on cleaning products.
You can find these oven liners at Wal-Mart, Amazon, Bed, Bath, & Beyond and other places that sell home goods.
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July 8, 2015
Belk is my go-to store for savings on clothing and home decor. Just a few months ago I purchased a new king sized quilt and shams for less than I would have paid at a discount store. And in my opinion, the quality is significantly better.
A few days ago I was in Belk again. There were so many deals that I spent a few hours in there perusing the racks and shelves. I ended up with a heaping cart full of shoes and clothes. I was so excited to get these shoes.
I can’t find my receipt so I don’t know the exact totals, but that is approximately $550 in shoes for less than $150! I got two pairs of tennis shoes for each of my kids and I picked up some sandals with good support for when school starts back. I am on my feet far too much to have flimsy shoes. These prices were so low I even got a pair for my mom.
I didn’t take pictures of everything I purchased, but I got shirts, shorts, shoes, Pyrex dishes, a Steve Madden purse (regularly $88 and I paid $20) and so much more.
If you sign up for emails from Belk, they’ll send you alerts of sales and some coupons. They sent me another one for an additional 10% off the clearance price. These savings have really helped with our back-t0-school shopping.
What is your favorite store for clothing deals?
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June 18, 2015
Sorry this is a day late. I meant to post yesterday but got busy doing other things. Saturday we had the privilege of visiting Cape Lookout Lighthouse. This is the first time we were able to go onto the island. The last time we went there signs were posted about the government shutdown. I’m not sure why it’s taken us so long to make it back out there. It’s a nice place to visit and I hope we can spend more time there exploring soon. I can’t imagine what life must have been like on the island in the 1800s. Sounds like a lonely yet beautiful place to be. I hope you enjoy the pictures.
We didn’t see any wild horses while we were at Cape Lookout, but we saw one on Carrot Island on our way back to the Beaufort boat ramp. He was out there by himself feeding at the water’s edge.
Have you ever visited Eastern North Carolina?
February 25, 2015
About two years ago, my son went to a birthday party and there was an ice cream cake. Based upon the serving platter, we could tell that it was homemade. We tried to figure out how it was made. It looked like it might be ice cream and graham crackers. We were curious and so we asked the host about the cake. Her response was so simple — It’s just ice cream sandwiches and Magic Shell. And from that moment on, our birthday cakes have been the easy ice cream cake.
You simply layer the cake – a row of ice cream sandwiches, a layer of Magic Shell spread over the top, a layer of ice cream sandwiches, and another layer of Magic Shell. You can make the cake as small or as large as you need. For our family, we typically do a smaller cake and only use one box of ice cream sandwiches and one bottle of magic shell. For a larger get together, you’d need several boxes of ice cream sandwiches and bottles of Magic Shell.
We have tried different flavors of Magic Shell and ice cream sandwiches. One of our favorite ways to make the cake is by using Blue Bunny birthday cake ice cream sandwiches (shown above). These specialty ice cream sandwiches are a little more pricey than normal ice cream sandwiches, so whenever Harris Teeter has them buy 1 get 1 free, I pick up a few boxes for the freezer.
Sometimes to give the cake a more birthday cake look we’ll add some colored icing to the cake. It isn’t necessary though. One of the great things about this cake is that it can be made well in advance and put into the freezer until serving time.
So what do you think? Will you try the easy ice cream cake?
October 19, 2014
Hello thrifty readers. Sorry it has been so long since I have posted. Being a teacher, mom, and wife limits my time. I still try to save money wherever I can and so when Harris Teeter had pork roast on sale last week, I snagged one for for freezer cooking.
Yesterday I cooked the pork roast in the crock pot for about eight hours. Normally I would season it with cumin, garlic, onions, and other yummy Mexican flavorings, but I plan to use this one for sandwiches, burritos, and egg rolls. I only seasoned this roast with salt and pepper.
Last night I removed the pork from the crock pot. It was so tender that it came apart in pieces. I let it cool for a little while and then pulled the pork apart. As you can see, there was enough to fill a 9×13 dish.
I separated the pork into three freezer safe containers. I probably could have stretched it a little further for four meals, but my kids are growing and eating like crazy! They are eating like little adults right now. Plus, I like to have leftovers for work lunches.
Cooking this pork was so easy to do. It didn’t take long at all. Let me tell you though, it will save so much time on weeknights. It will be nice to put a container of this in the refrigerator to thaw and then come home with some of the work already done. I’m looking forward to dinners of burritos, pork sandwiches, and egg rolls. Yummy!
July 9, 2014
I was pleased to find out that the clearance aisle at Michaels was on sale for an additional 50% off the lowest price. I stopped today and found some great deals.
I ended up with approximately $55 of merchandise for only $12! That’s a savings of 78%!
- Springfield pop princess doll outfits, regular price $19.99, $5.99
- Springfield argyle tee and skirt doll outfit, regular price $9.99, $1.99
- Art Minds 2-color tie dye kit, regular price $5.99, $.89
- 4 magic paint poster kits (12 sheets each), regular price $1, $.24 each
- Scotch 2 pk super glue gel, regular price $4.99, $.49
- Sculpey Pluffy modeling clay kit, regular price $9.99, $1.99
Alligator Girl is excited to have some new clothes for her American Girl doll. She used her birthday money to purchase these. Both kids are happy to have a few arts and crafts supplies to entertain them this summer.
Have you found any good deals at Michaels lately?
July 9, 2014
Both of my children’s feet have grown quite a bit this year. I knew it was time to purchase new flip flops but I really didn’t want to run out and buy a pair of cheap, thin flip flops that wouldn’t last long. We live on the coast and so during the summer, we wear flip flops a lot. I wanted the kids to have something with more support, but I also was looking for a good deal.
I went to Shoe Department and saw that they had Sperry Top-Sider flip flops for $19.99. I liked the flip flops and knew they had good support and wouldn’t fall apart quickly. I decided to stop by Rack Room Shoes to see if they had the same flip flops. If so, I could get the buy one get one 50% off sale. It turned out that Rack Room didn’t have the flip flops.
I stopped in to Shoe Department today to get the Sperrys for my daughter and was thankful to see they were marked down an additional 50% off! In fact, they have several different shoes in all departments that were marked an additional 50% off. Both of my kids were able to find flip flops today.
Sperry Top-Sider pink flip flops – regular price $29.99, on sale for $19.98, additional 50% off = $9.99
Crevo brown flip flops – regular price $27.99, on sale for $19.98, additional 50% off = $9.99
I just did a little research and found that the Sperry pink flip flops are on Amazon for $29.95 plus $5.95 shipping. The Crevo flip flops sell for $25.45 with free shipping.
I’m happy with today’s bargains and I’m also happy that I’m teaching my kids that they can shop smart and make money go further.
June 24, 2014
Hello everyone. I know. I know. I haven’t been posting much. Teaching first graders is tiring and takes a lot of time, but I love them. I’m not home for the summer yet. I just finished attending a math workshop and I have homework! I am also teaching summer school.
I spent some money today, which you all know is something I don’t do very often. One of the reasons I am teaching summer school is so that I will have some extra money to buy school clothes, shoes, birthday presents, and some household things we’ve been needing and/or wanting.
One of my stops today was Ross. I scored some bargains in there today. I think I spent two hours (by myself!) walking around that store. It was nice to shop with quiet.
My Ross bargains are:
- Phytorelax shampoo, 33 .9 oz for $6.99. I actually googled this on my phone while I was in the store to make sure it was a good deal. It sells for $19.69 on Amazon!
- Phytorelax condition, 33.9 oz for $3.99! I found this in the clearance section. Score!
- Anneliese shampoo, 33.8 oz for $1.99. This sells for $24.99 on Amazon. This was also in the clearance section. I am now stocked up on shampoo. What a deal!
- Toy Time dog rope tire toy for $3.99. This wasn’t on clearance, but still a great deal. Have you seen the prices of dog toys? Sheesh!
- Eight piece eye designer kit for $3.99. It sells for $16.99 on Amazon.
- Bed Head hair brush for $3.49. This was on clearance. It sells for $12.99 on Amazon.
- Ionika hair brush for $3.49. This was also on clearance. It sells for $14.99 on Amazon.
- Sanuk brand shoes for $17.99. What a deal! I was looking for some comfy work shoes. I may have to take these back though. I am wearing them inside the house to see how they fit. I think they might be too big.
- Pink Calvin Klein blouse for $20.99 on clearance. The Amazon Prime price for this shirt is $49.23. I am in desperate need of some work clothes. You don’t want to know how old the shirt is that I’m wearing and it was a hand-me-down.
- Two Match It! puzzles for $4.99. My students will enjoy playing these learning games during their learning station time. Our first unit of the year is All About Me so the All About Me puzzle will be perfect for that. I have a little bit of fundraiser money left in my school account, so I will get reimbursed for these.
Lexi wanted to get in the last picture. She wouldn’t move. No doubt she thought food was involved.
The last deal is a rug for my back door and laundry room. The old rug was falling apart and got thrown into the trash. I needed something for the back door that would do a good job catching dirt and water. The waffle print Eco Mat is supposed to do just that. It may sell for $26 on Amazon, but I only paid $7.99. Yay!
As you can see, I spent some money today, but I’d say that I saved way more than I spent.
What deals have you found lately?
May 26, 2014
Rack Room Shoes is offering 10% to military personnel and their families through Tuesday, May 27th. A U.S. military i.d. is required for the 10% savings.
DISCLAIMER: Certain styles excluded. This offer can be combined with earned qualifying Rewards dollars but not with other coupons.